batak tribe couple

Yesterday my old friend, Athalia, chatted me on Facebook. She asked me about Batak indigenous. She told me that she had to broke up with his boyfriend because his mother told him to be with Batak tribe girl, although he was still in love with her. 

It's sad but true, most Batak parents want their children to have a pair of Batak tribe. There are many reasons why this is happening. As for myself, my parents do not force me to have a Batak partner. But as the oldest son and the oldest grandchildren in my big family, I feel I just have to find a Batak tribe girl.

I have to say the first reason why this is happening is that Batak parents still want to preserve the indigenous Batak to their offspring. Like the customary, the clothes, the language, and other things. It is known that the bonding among fellow Batak tribal is very strong. It can be seen from a Batak wedding. All the family from near to far, various Batak clans (marga) would come, even just to one Batak wedding. I think the parents want to keep that tradition. 

Other reason maybe because the parents are afraid if their children married to non-Batak, their big family might excommunicate the couple. The family wouldn't say it, but now it's a common knowledge. There's a way to prevent this excommunicate thing. If
the couple wants to get married, the non-Batak one has to be given a Batak clan. If the non-Batak is'nt given a Batak clan, their children marriage could't be celebrated with Batak indigenous. That's why I have to agree if some people said that Batak tribe is a bit selfish. 

I have a story about this problem. My granny has a brother whose 3 of his daughters married to non-Batak. When he lost his brother, his 3 sons-in-law didn't come to the tribe event because they didn't know what to do and what to say at the tribe event. This broke my granny's brother's heart. His 3 daughters couldn't say anything as watching their father cried. 

To end this post, I'll give you my opinion. I think true love could face anything. So if you love each other whether you're from the same clan or not, you don't have to worry. Many couples could work it out and resolved their problems. And it is not always Batak parents prohibit their children to marry non-Batak. I have a friend who is not Batak, but she's loved by her Batak boyfriend's parents.